I think I’ve mentioned this before that I started goal setting when I was seventeen. And I’ve looked at certain years with despair. Why?
After going through books like GOALS by Brian Tracy I don’t understand why my goals will not be achieved. Looking closely, you’ll see that this is one of the reasons we don’t set goals.
Yet, I still do set goals. Why? I’ve discovered these four secrets. There might be others but this is what I’ve worked with that has produced results, including this blog.
Are your goals CONNECTED TO YOU? You don’t set goals for me. I set goals for me and you for you. Why? I know where it hits me the most. And you know where it hits you the most.
What triggers a musician might not be what triggers a salesman. Let your goals be yours. In that way, it’ll be easier to feel inspired by it.
Are you taking strategic ACTIONS?
The universe doesn’t give you what you ask for with your thoughts – it gives you what you demand with your actions. Steve Maraboli
Are goals animate?
SO, why do I set a goal to write a book and I refuse to put down a pen daily to write… After a while, I grumble that goal setting doesn’t work.
Setting goals without acting on them is like having a desire to cook and eat beans but then you decide to put few cups of uncooked beans inside a pot, on the stove without lighting the stove.
What will you get after 1hr?
After taking actions, are you willing to be PATIENT? I can remember my first date… Chai! I palpated that day like I was going to see a Governor. After the whole euphoria, I landed at Kilimanjaro restaurant. Guess what?
She wasn’t there. Guy, I waited o. No reason am… We die here! She finally came and we “prayed” lol! I knew my goal. I acted but see, I waited o.
Everything we do on earth has an element of time in it. Do you know when I started dreaming of having a blog?
Patience is not sitting in your house and expecting to loose 8kg. It is visiting the gym, over time, with an expectation of the result you desire.
Are you LEARNING ALONG THE WAY? If I tell you the number of blog sites I’ve created, you’ll laugh at me. The sites are on but I won’t share it now.
As a teens coach, one of the first assignments I had in 2016 was to speak to a group of teens in a school I’d not been to. See, it was so tough. I had the passion but do it nah… If I hear!
Until I started practising weekly, I was just day dreaming about speaking to teens. Today, I know I can stand anywhere to talk with teens. Why? I’ve acted on it over time and I’ve learnt what doesn’t work and what works.
I think sometimes when we don’t act on our goals, we don’t know what we need to stop doing and what to start doing.
The first feedback you get as you act on your goals is usually to differentiate what works from what does not.
As 2020 comes, please take time to apply these principles to each of your goals: make sure it’s connected to you; take actions daily – babe take action; be patient and then keep learning(the learning includes knowing when to throw away some goals).
Merry Christmas in arrears and Happy New Year in advance!
It occurred to me that if you focus on goals, you may hit goals – but that doesn’t guarantee growth. If you focus on growth, you’ll grow and always hit goals.
I’ve studied so many of his books and I’ll recommend it for anyone who wants to master leadership especially in the work place.
Going through The 15 Laws of Growth, I saw where John Maxwell mentioned the differences between goal oriented individuals and growth oriented individuals. How did this happen?
He had a meeting with one of his mentors who asked him about his personal development plan. Instead, he started telling him how he’s planning to do this and do that and do this like we all do… I will get four more customers, I’ll get four more schools, I’ll hit my marketing target… bla bla bla…
In the course of the conversation it was so clear to John Maxwell that he just had goals but no personal development plan. He’s been a goal oriented person instead of a growth oriented person.
John Maxwell had to save money over a period of time, with his wife (this is a virtuous one really), to buy their first personal development program.
More than 45 years down the line, the difference is clear. He has sold more than 25 million copies of his books, a major with fortune 500 companies, a global leadership guru, trained millions of leaders round the world. You can visit his website here
This story alone gave me a new perspective of what my most important goal should be for every year including 2020.
But then, what are the DIFFERENCES between a goal oriented person and a growth oriented person?
Destination VS Journey. With this, the growth oriented employee enjoys the entire moment and does not wait for someday like the goal oriented employee. For him, everyday counts.
Motivation VS Maturation. If you want to mature, you’ll start living beyond mere motivations – whether you feel like or not, you’ll read that book, attend that training, do the PMP program…
Seasonal VS Lifelong. This is why it’s important to have a defined career path. When you know where you’re going in your career, you take a lifelong decision and step. The growth oriented employee, sees longterm.
Challenges VS Changes. Goals at it’s best challenges you. Although, for each goal you achieve, there’s an element of growth you attain. Yet, the mindset is different. Focusing on growth brings about changes. The last point explains this more…
Stops after goal is attained VS Continues after goal is attained. This is the icing. There’s this death of drive or vibe that comes once we attain a goal. These footballers – Ronaldo and Messi – have exhibited this over and over again hat they are committed to growing than anything.
The same with you and me – if you focus on growth, you’ll become So Good They Can’t Ignore You. (By the way, that’s a book we’ll do in January, 2020.)
The growth focused employee has her eyes on the future. She wants to mature and not just get things. She wants to become.
And the truth is this, when you become, you possess the ability to produce anything you want at that level. You can also compare it collecting fish and knowing how to fish.
So, what’s my most important goal? My personal development. And that’s why I have a Personal Development Plan.
I’ll do a post on how to create a personal development plan by next month. I don’t just want to achieve goals, I want to grow in 2020.
In today’s society, we want everything now. We are living in an instant gratification, ‘short-termist’ culture. If we want something we buy it. Never mind whether we have the money or not, if we want something we borrow the cash and get it. Now! People are really focused on now… live now, pay later. Live now, worry about it later.
Greed and impatience make us see goal setting as a waste of time. The stats for gambling is increasing by the day. And one of the reasons is this thirst for it’s either now or never.
Employees want money now. Not tomorrow. She wants to be born today, attend school tomorrow. Graduate on Wednesday, get engaged on Thursday. Do bridal shower on Friday, marry on Saturday… My dear, how?
You only see that in Cinderella movies. Yet, thanks to Disney World for showing us that Cinderella gets injured too. Goals need patience!
One Day E Go Beta MENTALITY
(This means, some day, it’ll be good). I’m a Nigerian and I know deep in my heart that this is one of the ways we escape responsibility for our lives.
While I like the hope it stirs, I hate the complacency it creates in the minds of those who have refused to think and take action.
… If you don’t take full responsibility for everything that happens to you, but rather find someone, something or some event to blame for every setback or failure, you cannot take the first step toward goal setting.
Believing in luck is not a strategy. Set goals and go to work in 2020.
NO PERSONAL COMPELLING VISION FOR LIFE
I think this should be the first reason.
How many employees have a personal compelling vision for their lives? How many are working beyond just earning? Earning money is good but can we go beyond that?
I’m an employee and I understand the challenges of the average Nigerian employee.
But see, when vision drives your life, no one tells you to look up to something greater than just your belly.
Amongst the 5 reasons, which of them affects you the most?
2020 is barely 16 days from now.
Do you know you can determine certain things that will happen in your life in 2020 with simple goals?
“The only way,” Myles Munroe said, “to control time and change is to plan.”
Plan with your goals. Sure I know there are things you can’t plan or control. Yet, do your part and keep hope alive.
In clear words, Brian Tracy is saying this to me, you and any one who cares to listen about goal setting from his classical book:
Take charge of your life. Really, no one cares about you or will ever, more than you.
Clarify your values. What do you esteem so highly?
Define your purpose or mission. What’s your life’s vision even as an MTN staff or you’re working in Access Bank or in that dry cleaning firm?
Clarify your belief. What do you believe in? What are your convictions?
Write down what you want to achieve. Yes. Write down your goals. At this point it should be for 2020.
Associate with the right people. I’m sure you’ve heard you’re the average of 5 persons you spend your time with.
Manage your time. Hmmm… If you have the best goals and refuse to align your time with it, you’ll most likely see no result.
Make a plan of action. Nothing happens until something is done.
Review and visualize your goals daily. This is the power of visualization. What if you keep your goals on your wardrobe door, where you can see it like I do?
Do something everyday. Take a step daily about your goals.
Remain flexible at all time. Yes! This means be ready to learn along the way.
Persist until you succeed. Goals need patience. Yes, they do.
“The potential of the average person is like a huge ocean unsailed, a new continent unexplored, a world of possibilities waiting to be released and channeled toward some great good.” Brian Tracy
“You will become as large as your controlling desire; or as great as your dominant aspiration.” James Allen
“The biggest single obstacle to setting goals is “self-limiting beliefs.” Brian Tracy
“We greatly overestimate what we can accomplish in one year. But we greatly underestimate what we can accomplish in five years.” Peter Drucker
“The primary difference between high achievers and low achievers is “action-orientation”. Men and women who accomplish tremendous things in life are intensely action oriented.” Brian Tracy
“Be sure that, as you scramble up the ladder of success, it is leaning against the right building.” Stephen Covey
“Realize what you really want. It stops you from chasing butterflies and puts you to work digging gold.” William Moulton Marsden
“There is one quality which one must possess to win, and that is definiteness of purpose, the knowledge of what one wants, and a burning desire to possess it.” Napoleon Hill
“The only thing that stands between a man and what he wants from life is often merely the will to try it and the faith to believe that it is possible.” Richard M. DeVos
“No one is better than you and no one is smarter than you. People are just smarter or better in different areas at different times.” Brian Tracy
“Your main job in life is to create the mental equivalent within yourself of what you want to realize and enjoy in your outer world.” Emmet Fox
“Your problem is to bridge the gap between where you are now and the goals you intend to reach.” Earl Nightingale
“If you believe you can do a thing or you believe you cannot, in either case, you are probably right.” Henry Ford
“In our economic system, your income will be determined by three factors: first, what you do; second, how well you do it; and third, the difficulty of replacing you.” Brian Tracy
(I have 14 quotes already… Well, I’ll leave it still…)
If you knew you have six months to live, how would you spend your last six months on earth? Who would you spend the time with? Where would you go? What would you strive to complete? What would you do more of, or less of?
Imagine that you have all the inborn abilities to achieve any goal you want, what would you set?
What kind of mindset has held you back in 2019? What new information or revelation do you need to change it?
What price will you pay to achieve the goals that are most important to you 2020?
What would you do if you won a million naira cash, tax free, tomorrow? (Are you doing anything about that same thing now?).
Do a complete skills analysis on yourself and your work. Where are you good and where do you need to improve?
With what you know today, what would you not get into again if you could rewind time?
What one skill, if you developed and did it in an excellent fashion, would have the greatest positive impact on your career?
Who do you need to create relationship with in 2020 to improve my life?
Where do you need to go to more in 2020 to improve yourself?
Where do you need to stop going to in 2020?
Do you have goals for 2020 ready? (If yes, what if you look at it everyday before you go out and before sleeping? If no, what if you write it now?).
Trust me, 2020 will be exciting if you create deliberate goals. And another year will come after 2020. So, don’t allow external pressure control you.