Category Archives: Personal development

Two success hindrances.

The stories shared yesterday shows that in life, there are two basic hindrances to achieving success.

  • From others
  • From ourselves.

From ourselves includes fear of making mistakes, the belief that we’re not enough… And I believe that this is deadlier than that from others.

Why?

If you’re in tact internally, though you may face some rejections due to external pressure, you can stand after the external stone-throwing is over.

But imagine throwing yourself those stones… Think about creating the stones by yourself and then… 😰

Failure to success stories.

ABRAHAM LINCOLN

… lost his job at 23; lost his bid for state legislature; at 26, his wife died; he lost again trying to become the Speaker in the Illinois House of Assembly; at 39, he failed in the bid to become commissioner in DC; 10 years later, he was defeated in his quest to become US Senator… Yet, in 1946, he became a member of the House of Reps and in 1861, the occupant of White House.

ALBERT EINSTEIN

… at age 16, he failed an exam that prevented his entrance into the Swiss Federal Polytechnic, Zurich; his dad, at his death, almost pronounced him a failure; after graduation, which he struggled to get, he wandered for a while not knowing what to do with his life, yet he gave us the theory of relativity, did a lot in Physics and Mathematics and finally was a Nobel Prize recipient.

COLONEL SANDERS

… the motel and restaurant he owned, in 1939, got burnt within four months of being established; started another business but had to sell it in 1942, during the war and also gave up his marriage five years later; in 1955, due to a change in an Interstate route. he lost his restaurant again.

Down the line, his restaurant idea was rejected by over a thousand restaurants and accepted by one. And that was enough to start the global KFC we know.

OPRAH WINFREY

… Her organization fired her for not severing her emotions and that way led to a global brand.


What more can I say?

Dare to live. Dare to act. Dare to make mistakes.

No one lives life thinking.

Three reasons we make mistakes.

Have you ever found yourself cooking a meal for the first time?

Or, a certain kind of meal for the first time?

I did something funny few days ago. I cooked a nice sauce. Thirsty. Lovely. Few days after, it was gone. My tummy off course 😀.

Then, I did it again.

Guess what?

Not thirsty. Little salt and I was almost furious at myself. Yet, I had to gulp the sauce with my rice 😀.

Does it stop me from cooking?

When we make mistakes in life, I can explain it with any of these.

  • We make mistakes because of something we’ve not learnt.

How did you perform when you started writing in primary school? Imagine if you have access to those books. You can title it book of errors.

  • We make mistakes because of something we ignore.

This occurs when we even know it but then somehow, we ignore something. Like a pilot ignoring a vital sign his aircraft gave after his last trip.

That can be fatal, right?

  • We make mistakes because of cosmic energy or something we can’t define.

Yeah!

Things happen and sometimes we can’t explain. It’s tough and hard.

For a believer (I’m a person of faith), we know that all things will work out for our good – both the errors, but that does not give us freedom to be stupid..

However, do we stop because of an error?

Again, I’m daring you to try. Keep trying.

Lastly, yesterday’s blog post was a mess… 😀😀😀

Do you know I had to correct it this morning? Yeah, I had to.

But I’ll keep blogging.

Take that step.

Nike it. Just do it.

#staysafe

Quotes on making mistakes.

“You have to make mistakes to find out who you aren’t. You take the action, and the insight follows: You don’t think your way into becoming yourself.” – Anne Lamott

“Take chances, make mistakes. That’s how you grow.” – Mary Tyler Moore

“If you have the guts to keep making mistakes, your wisdom and intelligence leap forward with huge momentum.” – Holly Near

“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” – Albert Einstein

“Well, we all make mistakes, dear, so just put it behind you. We should regret our mistakes and learn from them, but never carry them forward into the future with us.” – L.M. Montgomery

“There is nothing wrong with making mistakes, but one should always make new ones. Repeating mistakes is a hallmark of dim consciousness.” – Dave Sim

“A person who makes few mistakes makes little progress.” – Bryant McGill

“Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. But if you do, make new ones. Life is too short to make wrong choice twice.” – Joyce Rachelle

“Sometimes a ‘mistake’ can end up being the best decision you ever make.” – Mandy Hale

“Wisdom comes from making mistakes, having the courage to face them, and make adjustments moving forward based upon the knowledge acquired through those experiences.” – Ken Poirot

“It’s easy to never make a mistake, when you are hiding yourself away from the possibility of making mistakes. It’s those who jump out of the nest who fall and fly…” – C. JoyBell C.

“Never fear to make mistakes; be courageous enough not to repeat it.” – Debasish Mridha

“Remember, making mistakes is part of the process. The key to success is to make mistakes quickly, and recover quickly, and keep forging forward.” – Kevin J. Donaldson

“Walt Disney wasn’t afraid of risk and failure. ‘You do big things, you make big mistakes.’ he says in Van France’s Window on Main Street.” – Chris Strodder


Which of them struck you the most as an employee?

Will you keep waiting to be perfect before you move?

I saw this on the status of a friend tonight:

Embrace the fear of making mistakes.

Some of us don’t move because we’re scared of making mistakes.

Can I ask you this?

Do you know that if you hadn’t made mistakes up to this point, you wouldn’t have known certain things you know?

Now, take a look at a list of typos on CNN’s page.

That’s appalling, right?

Yet, they are still amongst the top 5 destinations for global news.

Why?

If you’re afraid to make mistakes then you’re not ready to make successes. You’re not.

See my examples.

I planned a SmartPhone Graphic Designing training and these were my first designs.

That’s April for a May training. OMG!

I shouted after throwing stunts on Facebook, Instagram and twitter.

So, I changed it to this.

And this:

And then I spoke with a friend who told me to postpone it till next week so we can cover more grounds.

I did and came up with these… 😀

Funny right?

But I’ll have the training.

That’s life.

And I want you to take a step now. Don’t wait until everything is ready. Try that project. Take the risk. You don’t have forever.

Try it and make the mistake.

That also reminds me, if you’re interested in this training, register with this WhatsApp link:

https://chat.whatsapp.com/GPsKNTm3CIK8DrA5N6AIpv

But more importantly, embrace mistakes.

#staysafe

How to use deadlines to achieve personal targets.

… deadlines get jobs done.

Cahit Kargi

If you’ve been following me for a while, you’ll notice that I’m not the SEO trapped guy trying to get everyone to read his blog. No. I won’t do that.

Using SEO is good, but at the detriment of servicing my audience, I’d drop it.

For today, we’ll look at how to use deadline to help us achieve our goals and targets.

In the office, we have a recurrent training that occurs every Thursday for our students.

This means that, whether I am well or not, that training must occur. And because of that, we are forced to create our content sometimes before the term starts.

However, for a while, we were not able to do that. We create a week or two weeks before the training. That wasn’t fair, but there’s a lesson to it.

My blog posting has also taught me the same lesson as it relates to our goals.

Prior to now, I blogged on Mondays and Fridays. Those days are tensed for me. I have a scheduler. It’s made me more productive. So whenever an idea comes, I flesh it out and then schedule it.

Now, because I know I must upload on Mondays and Fridays, I am always open to ideas and writing frequently.

For a while, I’ve not missed a day. Just a few days I blew it. And recently, I started everyday blogging. That alone has changed my mindset.

Completely.

And I see my writing goals coming to fruition, especially with the release of my first eBook. I was wowed when I did it.

All thanks to, amongst other things, the deadline restriction that has helped me grow.

Maybe, you can try it too.

Set deadlines for the things you want to do. You might have a goal, but setting a deadline for the little steps, will make the goal to be fulfilled faster than you planned.

I know people who are against deadlines. However, I think when you start out in something you don’t have a habit for, you need deadlines, otherwise you’ll be shooting yourself in the foot.

More coming in.

Don’t forget to sign up for the SmartPhone Graphic Designing 101 Course is coming up this weekend.

And keep making progress in this lockdown.

Remember to share and let me get your comment on what you feel about today’s post.

Stay safe.

Should I leave my job because I don’t have a WHY?

Our book review, Start With Why by Simon Sinek, showed us the importance of having a WHY in our work or career life.

Yet, we know that not many persons have have discovered their WHY.

Now, the question is this: Should I leave my job because I don’t have a why?

Well, my answer is no.

You don’t have to. Not yet, at least.

Someone might tell you to leave but please don’t.


Related:

I’m in a Job that does not Really use my Skills. What Should I Do?


As an employee, instead of leaving, start the process of discovering your WHY.

This pandemic lockdown can be a time gift that you can use for that journey. Begin the process.

You might want to see Simon’s two books: Start With WHY and Find Your WHY. Or better still, listen to these videos:

and

Let the process start. Remember this quote from yesterday:

Finding WHY is a process of discovery not invention.

While you go through the process, keep giving your best to that job.

SmartPhone Blogging 101

I’ve dreamt of this. It’s surely not the perfect one. But it explains my journey so far.

I’ve used a free blog plan to start earning as a blogger. Lot’s of persons want to start blogging but they’ve not.

It’s not a story book. It’s a doing book. You’ll benefit more by carrying out the activities than by reading through.

In fact, I’d prefer you don’t read but act on all steps than read through and do nothing.

To download it for free, click here SmartPhone Blogging 101.

One more funny thing, the link above is from the website of a friend. So my book is squatting 😀. But who cares?

It’s ready and that’s it. I’ll keep pushing and I hope you do same.

Friday Book Review with Chuks | Start With Why by Simon Sinek

In reading this review, exchange company or organization for your name or “a person”.

And at certain times, just take in the lesson fully.


Every single company and organization on the planet knows WHAT they do. Some companies and people know HOW they do WHAT they do. Very few people or companies can clearly articulate WHY they do WHAT they do.

People don’t buy WHAT you do, they buy WHY you do it.

Knowing WHY is essential for lasting success and the ability to avoid being lumped in with others.

(This is why building your personal brand as an employee is important to me. You don’t get lumped up. You’re a distinct person already. Why reduce to being common? 😮 Let’s continue…)

Knowing your WHY is not the only way to be successful, but it is the only way to maintain a lasting success and have a greater blend of innovation and flexibility.

(I experience this virtually everyday as an employee. Ideas don’t get shut down. I only get tired. My WHY keeps the inspiration always.)

When a WHY goes fuzzy, it becomes much more difficult to maintain the growth, loyalty, and inspiration that helped drive the original success.

(This happens over time. Thus, the need for seasonal retreats.)

“‘Instead of asking, ‘WHAT should we do to compete?’ you need to ask yourself, ‘WHY did we start doing WHAT we’re doing in the first place, and WHAT can we do to bring our cause to life considering all the technologies and market opportunities available today?‘”

(As an employee, this will be difficult if you’re working in an organization that is not connected to your WHY.)

We are drawn to leaders and organizations that are good at communicating what they believe. Their ability to make us feel like we belong, to make us feel special, safe and not alone is part of what gives them the ability to inspire us.

Great leaders are those who trust their gut. They are those who understand the art before the science. They win hearts before minds. They are the ones who start with WHY.

If a company does not have a clear sense of WHY then it is impossible for the outside world to perceive anything more than WHAT the company does.

(Hmmm… My goodness!)

When the WHY is absent, imbalance is produced and manipulations thrive. And when manipulations thrive, uncertainty increases for buyers, instability increases for sellers and stress increases for all.

(Again, take a look at persons who know their WHY… Their moves and attitude is different. No manipulation.)

Only when the WHY is clear and when people believe what you believe can a true loyal relationship develop.

(Yeah! When I converse with highschool students, there’s a connect I get instantly. Why? They feel my WHY even before we converse.)

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The goal of business should not be to do business with anyone who simply wants what you have. It should be to focus on the people who believe what you believe.

(Seth Godin calls it Tribe.)

When we are selective about doing business only with those who believe in our WHY, trust emerges.

(Why? You truly care for the person. Sometimes you can’t help it. One day, one of my students said this to me: “Mr. Chialuka, why are you so obsessed about teenagers?”… That alone blew me up. She’s experienced something different.)

Trust begins to emerge when we have a sense that another person or organization is driven by things other than their own self-gain.”

(Just like the other statement.)

If the people inside a company are told to come to work and just do their job, that’s all they will do. If they are constantly reminded WHY the company was founded and told to always look for ways to bring that cause to life while performing their job, however, then they will do more than their job.

(A deep lesson for company owners and you too if you want to own businesses.)

When people come to work with a higher sense of purpose, they find it easier to weather hard times or even to find opportunity in those hard times.

(On my post, three days ago, I said something like that. Those who will thrive in this times are those with a compelling vision.)

Clarity of purpose, cause or belief is important, but it is equally important that people hear you.

(Yes! I’ve been waiting for this. If you have a WHY, people need to know about it. Allow it to show. There is the natural energy that releases it to people that come around you but beyond that, we need to add to that aura and that can include our social media presence. Who knows about your WHY? You see this blog, I’m using it to express my WHY.)

For a WHY to have the power to move people it must not only be clear, it must be amplified to reach enough people to tip the scale.

(Still like the last. That is why building a personal brand is important.)

Why personal branding is more important than ever for the C-suite.

A clear sense of WHY sets expectations. When we don’t know an organization’s WHY, we don’t know what to expect, so we expect the minimum—price, quality, service, features—the commodity stuff. But when we do have a sense for the WHY, we expect more.

(This is vital for entrepreneurs. Don’t look back! Remember, today’s employees are hybrids. I call them entreployees. They possess the entrepreneur’s nature.)

A symbol cannot have any deep meaning until we know WHY it exists in terms bigger than simply to identify the company.

For a logo to become a symbol, people must be inspired to use that logo to say something about who they are.

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If WHAT you do doesn’t prove what you believe, then no one will know what your WHY is and you’ll be forced to compete on price, service, quality, features and benefits; the stuff of commodities.

(Crystal truth. Clearly stated. The reason you are competing is because you don’t know your WHY.)

It is not just WHAT or HOW you do things that matters; what matters more is that WHAT and HOW you do things is consistent with your WHY.

(Another resonance!)

“‘If a company tries too many times to “seize market opportunities” inconsistent with their WHY over time, their WHY will go fuzzy and their ability to inspire and command loyalty will deteriorate.'”

(What do people around you know you with today? Is it the same three years ago? Will it be the same five years from now?)

Achievement comes when you pursue and attain WHAT you want. Success comes when you are clear in pursuit of WHY you want it.

(This is game over!)

For passion to survive, it needs structure. A WHY without the HOWs, passion without structure, has a very high probability of failure.

(So, your job should be one of the structures… You get it?)

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Finding WHY is a process of discovery, not invention.

(Yeah. I say it this way, “Your WHY is never clear. It only gets clearer”.)

There is a difference between running with all your heart with your eyes closed and running with all your heart with your eyes wide open.

(I don’t know what to say here 😀. Help me in the comment area…)

When you compete against everyone else, no one wants to help you. But when you compete against yourself, everyone wants to help you.

(Game over 2.0!… Lol…)

What if we showed up to work every day simply to be better than ourselves? What if the goal was to do better work this week than we did the week before? To make this month better than last month? For no other reason than because we want to leave the organization in a better state than we found it?

(Read it again: “What if I showed up…?”)


Finally, do you have a WHY for the job you do?

I can hear someone say, “Should I leave my job because I don’t have a WHY?”

Well, we’ll look at that tomorrow.

What should I do when my job does not connect with my WHY?